1. Wanting to work through stuff on your own
Often times taking some time to think things through or talk with a friend can help you find a way forward. However, sometimes it just simply isn’t enough and you may need more. Admitting that you need help does not reflect weakness, but rather shows signs of strength. Having a space to articulate how you are feeling and having someone who will accept you without judgement but not be afraid to gently challenge you if you need can be a exceptionally helpful experience.
2. Thinking that talking to someone about your problems won’t help.
Counselling works. In fact, counselling has been proven time and time again to be effective. Counsellors go through years of training to be able to sit with you, listen well and help you decide what is best for you and support you while you make changes that will improve your well-being.
3. You think you can’t afford it
It’s true that paying for counselling can seem expensive but don’t let that put you off. Many counsellors offer reduced rates for students and low income families. When you compare the cost of a counselling session to other things you consider important for your well-being such as a meal out or getting a massage it doesn’t seem quite so expensive. The effects of counselling can last much longer and have a greater impact on your wellbeing than a meal out or a massage!
4. You think you don’t have time.
Life is busy and it often seems a struggle fitting everything in. It’s true that you don’t have time to do everything you may need or want to do. However, take some time to consider your priorities. Are the benefits of seeing a counsellor, worth the 50 minutes a week that it will take (that adds up to a little over 7 minutes a day – surely you are worth spending that amount of time on).? The positive effects of counselling are not only for you but will ripple out to those around you too.
5. You don’t want people to know you are going to counselling.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about if you are seeing a counsellor. It shows you are taking active steps to make positive changes in your life. However, no-one needs to know anyway. Counselling in confidential and your counsellor will take steps to make sure your identity is protected and the content of your counselling is kept in confidence.
5. You are nervous and don’t know what to expect
This is the most common reason that people don’t come to counselling. Of course you are nervous, it can be an intimidating prospect to meet someone you don’t know and talk about your problems, maybe even tell them things you’ve never told anyone else. That’s why it’s important you take the time to find the right counsellor for you. Counselling is a process and your counsellor will go at your pace, you do not have to say anything or do anything you don’t want to, you are in control. So go on, be brave – make that call, what have you got to lose?